During your program, you will very likely have a roommate, whether you are staying in an NYU Residence Hall, hotel, or other type of accommodation. If you have a preference as to who your roommate is, you’ll have an opportunity to request each other before the start of the program by filling out the Roommate Preference Form in your Status Portal. Please note, in order for the request to be considered, you both must request each other separately. We will do our best to accommodate any roommate requests as space allows.
When sharing a space with another person, conflicts can sometimes arise. In a new environment, missing the comforts of home, the stress of those conflicts can be magnified. Below you’ll find some tips on how to avoid these conflicts and what to do if you find yourself having one.
Communication is Key!
The easiest way to avoid a conflict is to communicate with your roommate. Having a conversation with your roommate on the first day can help alleviate a lot of stress. Clearly state needs and expectations of each other and keep an eye out for potential conflicts.
Things to discuss include:
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- Sleeping patterns (lights out early or late)
- Hosting other NYU program participants in the room during free time (if applicable)
- Phone/video calls late at night
- Sharing of property
- Study habits (with music/in silence)
- Shower schedule (if you share a private bathroom)
Determine what is a “need” versus a “want” and compromise where possible. Respecting each other’s boundaries is vital. Creating a Roommate Agreement, signed by both parties, helps set clear expectations.
Resolving Conflicts
Sometimes unforeseen situations come up, and conflicts are unavoidable. If this happens, it’s important to maintain respectful communication and try to come to a speedy resolution.
Some things to keep in mind:
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- Discussing issues as they arise rather than keeping things bottled up will help alleviate any tensions more quickly.
- Be direct with communication. Talk to your roommate first, rather than behind their back.
- Use “I” statements. Ex- “I would prefer to study without background noise” rather than “Your music is too loud,” etc.
- Be open to compromise.
If the conflict is severe enough that you cannot resolve it yourselves, contact your Program Assistant or Faculty Leader. They will work with you to resolve the situation.