Category Archives: Urban Adolescents

What does society mean

“On the other hand, some researchers have suggested that participation in a romantic relationship may also increase anxiety and depressive symptoms among youth, particularly if youth are dissatisfied with these relationships, encounter conflict in their interactions with partners, and/or experience difficult relationship breakups” (La Greca and Harrison 2005; Russell and Consolacion, 2003 as cited in Bauermeister et al., 2010).

As an adult who identifies herself as being heterosexual, I didn’t have to think twice about hiding my sexuality when I was a developing adolescent. Yet, I too Continue reading What does society mean

Let’s talk about the hardship of being a (teenager) mom

“A best friend or a boyfriend who are invested in them making it. Teen moms need that. That’s one spot that a family member can’t fill”
—–Elizabeth Chase

I myself is a mom of a two-year-old boy. Before went back to grad school, I was so hesitated to make this decision because I was afraid of taking care of a baby and doing school work at the same time, and I was also afraid of feeling isolated among my peers–not that they will treat you differently because you are a mom, but being a mom means that you have to balance your own life and your life as a mom. To be honest, there is basically no balance. You will have to have someone to help you out, but you will still worry about your baby every day and there are a million things to worry about in a mothership. I was lucky that my husband and my friends from grad school are very supportive and understanding, but I can definitely understand how hard it can be for a young mom. People at their young age might have a hard time understanding a mom’s life, and in the culture where sexuality sometimes equals to shame also make young people get away from teen moms, even it is unconscious.

And no, at this point, I don’t believe the community can afford all the resources to young mothers because that’s going to be a huge amount of all the resources. What we can do is to acknowledge them how hard it can be, helping them to protect themselves from being a young mom that can not afford their life in every aspect (including mentally).

Reference:
Chase, E. (2017). Beyond the diploma: Dimensions of success for teenage mothers in high school. Educational Review, 69(4),

Let’s Talk About Sex

“Teenage mothers have been marked as a problem population, one that has already failed to adhere to certain norms and regulations about adolescent sexuality, namely that it should be non-existant at best, and invisible at worst (Kelly, 2000; Pillow, 2006).” (Chase, 2017, pg. 2)

Whether sexuality (and pleasure) is discussed in high school or not, adolescents are hyper aware of sexuality and are sexualized from a young age. One example of this is the way we speak to young children – ‘He’s going to be a lady’s man when he grows up’ or ‘Keep the boys away from her’. These two seemingly harmless statements, meant to complement the beauty of a child, actually sexualizes young bodies, teaching kids that their worth is only as good as their desirability. Then as a young person grows, we stop talking about sexuality, desire or pleasure but the sexualization occurs whether we speak of it or not. The silences surrounding a young person’s changing body and urges that come with it demonstrates cultural stigma and shame, clashing directly with sexualized images in advertisements, TV and movies promoting desirable femininity and masculinity. The misogyny displayed in most media, it is amplified for young Black and Latinx people, as their bodies are more heavily sexualized and fetishized. So it is no wonder that this staunch juxtaposition of roles for young people to fit into creates an intolerable environment for young pregnant people. When a young person becomes pregnant, schools, and the surrounding community tend jump to deficit narratives instead of face the gaping holes in sexualilty education.The pregnant body of a young person is so transgressive and so political because it forces us to to come face to face with all of our learned, and continuously upheld notions of young bodies, and what roles we have played in perpetuating them.

All Students Deserve a Judge Free Zone

Building relationships with others within a safe, accepting environment can be a crucial component of helping transgender students feel engaged and committed in school while they are navigating personal identity issues as well as the formation of positive self-esteem. (Kurt, 2017, p. 15)

It becomes more evident, with every article we read, the importance and the major responsibility that educators must take to make their classrooms a welcoming environment. Whether it be newcomers who don’t know the language and want to fit in, or the students that don’t participate in class because they didn’t have breakfast. All students should have and deserve a space where they aren’t judged, as the article states. Not only transgender students, but all adolescents are “navigating personal identity”, as young adults, they’re all discovering themselves. Every event at school, small or big, can affect the construction of a teen’s self-esteem, in both negative and positive ways. I do believe that how to handle or provide services for transgender students is a sensitive topic that must be discussed with all staff. I say sensitive because that’s the feeling I got when I read that transgender students not only question themselves but are also faced with questions by fellow classmates. This may put them in an unpleasing position where they might feel the need to justify who they are and how they feel when they shouldn’t have to. Therefore, it’s not only important to educate students about accepting and not judging any student, but also educators must take action in learning the laws and policies that keep their students safe and, in result, allows for a welcoming classroom environment.

MVP #10: Individualized Plans and Experiences

“In the spirit of honoring student autonomy, school counselors should not immediately assume what the student needs, but rather should begin by offering the student support and understanding. Through conversations, school counselors can garner a sense of individual student needs and work towards developing a plan to assist the student and student population” (Kurt, 14)

This passage stood out to me because it shows how complicated and individualistic the process is for helping transgender or gender nonconforming students. The experience varies wildly based on factors such as region, culture, religion and an individual’s home life. Every student has their own goals, barriers and levels of comfort. Confidentiality of the student makes these experiences more complicated as well. My first year of college, one of my roommates was a trans woman who was not out to her parents yet. Not only did I have to respect her name and pronouns, but I also had to respect her desires to be called a different name and set of pronouns in front of her parents when they’d come to the dorm to visit. I was asked to take down my rainbow pride flag temporarily while her parents were there in order to protect her from any possible danger. This was part of her individual experience which can differ greatly from someone else’s.