Category Archives: Urban Adolescents

You have to let them know that you care about them

“For many teachers, being positive means putting on a smile, pretending to
like a particular student, or going through the motions of using strategies
purportedly designed to enhance the classroom environment. In contradistinction, by assuming the best about our students-particularly in situations in which that assumption seems most implausible-we exercise a muscle that is real and lasting.”
—–Smith and Lambert, 2008

I think people can not be good teachers if they don’t have a truly kind heart. Some people are able to identify a situation where they need to smile, careful, act like having empathy, but not from their heart. Students are actually always smarter than we thought. They can identify the fakeness. Also, if you are a person who is dying to want your students to become the best person they can be, you will find a way to engage with your students and build a mutual trust with them even without any training.

I remember that when I was shadowing my focal learner, after observing her had a great debate with peers, I gave her a lot of compliment, she was very excited and gave me the biggest hug at the end of the day. I feel like if you can truly happy for your students, you will make them better people. Teachers’ social-emotional intelligence is as important as students’, it is so sad we did not have that training in teacher training programs.

Final MVP

“Listening, we get to know and connect with them on a deeper level, knowing that those who act out and are the most troubled are usually the most in trouble and in ned of our support. We see through the trouble to the inner strength, intelligence, and tallent each student possesses.”
(Goodman, 130)

This quote stood out to me because it brought to mind multiple kids I’ve worked with when I was a summer camp counselor and an intern teaching assistant at a middle school. Kids often decide at a young age what their reputation is, or what they believe they’re thought of as. I’ve worked with kids who had already decided that they were less intelligent than others because of what they were going through or what grades they received in school. When I interned twice at a middle school, I was discretely told who to keep my eye on, because they’d often “act out”. I had the opposite problem as a kid, being told that I was my parents’ “good one” and trying to live up to that for so long. My younger brother, on the contrary, had decided at a young age that he was the “bad one”, and stuck with that for many years already. I’ve certainly noticed how these kids who seem to “act out” for attention are typically not getting enough attention from their guardians at home, if at all.

Thinking about “Colorblind Racism” and Microagressions

“All focus group participants discussed experiencing various forms of racial microaggressions. Some of the injuries were related to a sense that many White people in the community pretend not to notice race or color and will do or say hurtful things without realizing that they are causing injury.”
(Yull et al. 2014)

I found this particularly interesting, as there does seem to be a sort of myth floating around that pretending to ignore race altogether means one cannot be racist (or say or do anything that could be considered racist.) Continue reading Thinking about “Colorblind Racism” and Microagressions

MVP: Failure of the Foster Care System

“Between the ages of 9 and 11, Makeba was placed in seven different foster homes, and five schools. As she put it, ‘When we go to a new house, foster care kids don’t unpack our bags. ‘Cause we are so used to moving all the time’” (personal communication, September 27, 2017) (Goodman, 112)

This quote in particular stood out to me because it shows how children at that young age are already so traumatized and affected by their circumstances that they already have figured out little ways of coping. When we go through trauma, our brains can shut down or repress memories in order to protect us, and in this case, the foster children had their usual routine which was meant for them to protect themselves, whether they realized it or not. They don’t even want to feel “at home” with any of these foster families because they already realize how temporary it is. To go through seven different homes of unfamiliar families and five schools in a two year period, during critical years of development, is something I could not imagine or ever understand experiencing. I agree that the system has and continues to fail our children by giving them more trauma and less stability than they had to begin with.