Category Archives: Gender Socialization & Identities

MVP #10: Individualized Plans and Experiences

“In the spirit of honoring student autonomy, school counselors should not immediately assume what the student needs, but rather should begin by offering the student support and understanding. Through conversations, school counselors can garner a sense of individual student needs and work towards developing a plan to assist the student and student population” (Kurt, 14)

This passage stood out to me because it shows how complicated and individualistic the process is for helping transgender or gender nonconforming students. The experience varies wildly based on factors such as region, culture, religion and an individual’s home life. Every student has their own goals, barriers and levels of comfort. Confidentiality of the student makes these experiences more complicated as well. My first year of college, one of my roommates was a trans woman who was not out to her parents yet. Not only did I have to respect her name and pronouns, but I also had to respect her desires to be called a different name and set of pronouns in front of her parents when they’d come to the dorm to visit. I was asked to take down my rainbow pride flag temporarily while her parents were there in order to protect her from any possible danger. This was part of her individual experience which can differ greatly from someone else’s.

Let’s be all-inclusive.

“In order to fully advocate for and discuss transgender and other gender nonconforming student populations, it is important to understand the terminology within the LGBTW community, as there are diverse linguistic and socio cultural connotations attached to the different terminologies within this communities. In fact, the concept of gender itself is far more complex than a simple binary of male vs. female identity” (Kurt, 2007, p.5).

This article of Kurt (2007) brings up some of conversations I have had recently, specifically in regards to separate ‘all gendered’ bathrooms. Continue reading Let’s be all-inclusive.

Transgender People… are People

“Transgender students need to feel that they have a space where they are safe and
accepted without having to justify or defend who they are. Of paramount importance is
respecting the gender identity of the student as misgendering a student can cause a
great deal of distress. Building relationships with others within a safe, accepting
environment can be a crucial component of helping transgender students feel engaged
and committed in school while they are navigating personal identity issues as well as
the formation of positive self-esteem.”
(Kurt 2017)

Transgender students are students, and, like all students, deserve to feel safe, respected, and supported in school by faculty and peers in order to get the most out of their school experience. Somehow, I feel like when people think of the word “transgender,” they think of politics, belief systems, legalities, when in reality, transgender refers first and foremost to people. Continue reading Transgender People… are People

We’re not here to survive. We’re here to thrive.

“Transgender students themselves may struggle with a variety of issues in seeking to be authentically seen, including the fear of social rejection and mistreatment or abuse from peers. As a result, many of these students hope to escape notice and to simply survive rather than flourish.” (Orr & Baum, as cited in Kurt, 2017, p. 7)

I found this quote to be important because it not only highlights the social challenges that transgender students, or any students of the LGBTQ community for that matter, may face, but it hints at how these challenges may impact their learning and education as well. We, as teachers, are first and foremost there to help students learn. It is our job and responsibility to provide each and every one of our students with equal education, access to the same resources to enhance their learning, and support their learning in any way that we can. Continue reading We’re not here to survive. We’re here to thrive.

Gender Classification for Bullying

Ringrose & Renold, 2010, p. 580  

Bullying if often characterized and separated it with the “bully” on one and end and the “victim” on the other. However, the performativity of how different types of bullying is classified goes by the division of gender where boys tend to be more physical on their abuse and aggressive and girls tend to be meaner in their behavior. As a result, even before bullying is acknowledged, boys are expected to be more reactive and aggressive when they are being attacked and girls tend to be more passive. This is problematic because boys then replicate these behaviors as is expected from them based on their gender. Schools also participate in this type of socialization affecting the psychological and mental growth of students.