“I decided to do SecondLife because I didn’t like MySpace, Facebook, Tagged, or Crushspot. Everybody at school was using these online social networking sites, and I don’t like people at school that much…They mess with me. I didn’t want to always have to be in school and deal with high school stuff, especially when I’m at home, you know what I’m saying. Anyway, I have fun on SecondLife. I don’t have to be myself because my life sucks. And then I feel like I can be more like myself because I don’t have to front about stuff.” (Kirkland, 2009, Researching and Teaching English in the Digital Dimension, p17)
This kid’s situation reminded me of my younger sister who had the similar experience, not enjoying school, lacking of friends but exploring a new world through the social networking sites. Like the kid mentioned in this article—Raymond who confronted awful situation at home and suffered a lot, my sister had been though much hard times because of her physical deficits in her left eye and her mouth. She was taken to the hospital every week for treatment which lasted for seven years after she was born. It’s hard to imagine the physical pain she suffered; however, it is always the psychological trauma that is harder to be healed. She hated to go to school and had little communication with either her classmates or her teachers because she was laughed at by her peers a lot and lacked confidence so that she only had one or two friends, and for the rest of her classmates, she barely talked to them. As far as I’m concerned, there’s a strange phenomenon in china that teachers tend to show bias to students who are outgoing or active in class and pay a little attention or care the introverted students so that students who volunteer to answer questions in class, ask questions after class and communicate well with teachers often times receive more care in all aspects. My sister was the opposite who never liked to talk because every time she spoke, people would stare at her mouth, so I was not surprised that her teachers paid no attention to her and never cared about her. Continue reading Escape and explore