Maintaining interdependence in adolescence and early adulthood, however, involves relative redistributions of relationship functions. Adolescents’ perceptions of parents as primary sources of support generally decline, whereas perceived support from friends in- creases, such that friendships are seen as providing roughly the same (Helsen et al., 2000; Scholte et al., 2001) or greater (Furman & Buhrmester, 1992) support as parental relationships. This process especially implicates friends and romantic interests, the indi- viduals with whom early adults most like to spend time (proximity seeking) and with whom they most want to be when feeling down (Collins, W. A., & Steinberg, L, 2008, pg569).

Parents are one of the most significant existence to us. They raised us, feed us, even taught us to become a human being. In truth, we do feel loved and supported from our parents when we are happy, sad, excite, engage until entering the puberty, which between age 12 to 16 (Stöppler, M. C.). During this stage, we probably all experienced the dramatic changes that happened in our body. Besides that, we also have differences of view on the things since the development of the frontal lobe; in other words, our thinking process has been changed. Connecting with the paragraph that I choose from this reading, personally, I do have consensus feeling about the interdependence between parents and friends although I passed the puberty. Now, I am pursuing a higher education record which requires economic support from my parent so I am depending. Once my parents and I had a conversation about the perspectives on the marriage during dinner. Through the slight talk, my father expected me to marriage after I graduate. He believes the generation should propagate and that helps me become mature. According to my perspective, before I married, first of all, I really want to have a permanent job which I have the ability to feed myself and support my parent since they will retire eventually. Also, I believe that I am still young, I should enjoy my life of young since there are so many things that I never experienced. My father does not accept my perspective which becomes the alienation of the communication. If I share such perspectives to my friends, they listen carefully about my opinion try to understand it first. Usually, they support me even encourage me to do a certain thing that I believe. Sometimes when I feel depress and overwhelm, I could say the first person that I emerged from my mind, which was my friend who lived in China. We usually connected through Facetime to talk and share the daily life in both worlds. Because we understand each other so well, I sort of depend on him mentally more than my parent. After reading this paragraph, I realized that the existence of the contradiction of the previous generation and today’s generation regarding their believes. If one of side negative about the other side, especially to our age people, we choose to give up instead of negotiating because we know that there are still the people who possess same believe to support what we believe. 

Reference

Stöppler, M. C. (n.d.). Puberty Stages & Signs for Boys & Girls. Retrieved from https://www.medicinenet.com/puberty/article.htm