Monthly Archives: November 2018

More questions than answers about “thick desire”

“We  see our job first as documenting the links that tie bodies to policies, and importantly,  we see these ties as both punishing and supportive; the question is for whom are policies  punishing and for whom do policies provide consistent support? Our second job is to theorize  the implications of the loss of state support for people, their families, and their communities. To this end, we ask how relationships with policies and the state form  (constrain, expand, inspire) the subjectivity of individuals—a task that diff ers somewhat from that of the philosopher, political theorist, or anthropologist.  With social psychological theory as our guide (Lewin, 1935), we look to the person as well as the environment to ask, how do you know what you want?” (P. 15-16).” -McClelland & Fine, 2013

This week’s reading left me with more questions than answers. Where do we draw the line between liberation and freedom and crime and pedophilia? I completely understand that teenagers have desire and attraction and can attest to that personally but I still find the territory this article treads in to be a bit confusing (convoluted).

Having been a society that previously had children working in factories or one that still follows religions and cultural values where humans enter adulthood a lot earlier than what the “state” allows, how do we define what is okay and what is not? There are certain age differences that I personally consider to be concerning but I’m sure that maybe in another time period no one would have batted an eye at that. At what point did we as a society decide that 18 was the age that separated children from adults? Furthermore, how do we allow youth to have sexual expression while still regulating behavior that we have decided is wrong such as child brides, child pornography, human trafficking of minors, and more? Even using the word “allow” makes me uncomfortable because who are we to decide what someone can or cannot do with their own body.

Adding to this that black and brown youth, queer youth, immigrant youth, non-binary youth, neurologically atypical youth, Muslim youth, and other youth that don’t fit society’s cookie-cutter-mold, are at a much higher risk especially when they fall into more than one of the afore mentioned “categories”. How do we make the world safer for them without simultaneously making it more difficult for them to express themselves? Expression not just in gender identity and performance or sexuality, but expression of who they want to be and what they want to do in the world which reminds us that this desire to live and live boldly goes “beyond the heart, mind, and genitals” (p. 16).

 

What does society mean

“On the other hand, some researchers have suggested that participation in a romantic relationship may also increase anxiety and depressive symptoms among youth, particularly if youth are dissatisfied with these relationships, encounter conflict in their interactions with partners, and/or experience difficult relationship breakups” (La Greca and Harrison 2005; Russell and Consolacion, 2003 as cited in Bauermeister et al., 2010).

As an adult who identifies herself as being heterosexual, I didn’t have to think twice about hiding my sexuality when I was a developing adolescent. Yet, I too Continue reading What does society mean

Let’s talk about the hardship of being a (teenager) mom

“A best friend or a boyfriend who are invested in them making it. Teen moms need that. That’s one spot that a family member can’t fill”
—–Elizabeth Chase

I myself is a mom of a two-year-old boy. Before went back to grad school, I was so hesitated to make this decision because I was afraid of taking care of a baby and doing school work at the same time, and I was also afraid of feeling isolated among my peers–not that they will treat you differently because you are a mom, but being a mom means that you have to balance your own life and your life as a mom. To be honest, there is basically no balance. You will have to have someone to help you out, but you will still worry about your baby every day and there are a million things to worry about in a mothership. I was lucky that my husband and my friends from grad school are very supportive and understanding, but I can definitely understand how hard it can be for a young mom. People at their young age might have a hard time understanding a mom’s life, and in the culture where sexuality sometimes equals to shame also make young people get away from teen moms, even it is unconscious.

And no, at this point, I don’t believe the community can afford all the resources to young mothers because that’s going to be a huge amount of all the resources. What we can do is to acknowledge them how hard it can be, helping them to protect themselves from being a young mom that can not afford their life in every aspect (including mentally).

Reference:
Chase, E. (2017). Beyond the diploma: Dimensions of success for teenage mothers in high school. Educational Review, 69(4),

Let’s Talk About Sex

“Teenage mothers have been marked as a problem population, one that has already failed to adhere to certain norms and regulations about adolescent sexuality, namely that it should be non-existant at best, and invisible at worst (Kelly, 2000; Pillow, 2006).” (Chase, 2017, pg. 2)

Whether sexuality (and pleasure) is discussed in high school or not, adolescents are hyper aware of sexuality and are sexualized from a young age. One example of this is the way we speak to young children – ‘He’s going to be a lady’s man when he grows up’ or ‘Keep the boys away from her’. These two seemingly harmless statements, meant to complement the beauty of a child, actually sexualizes young bodies, teaching kids that their worth is only as good as their desirability. Then as a young person grows, we stop talking about sexuality, desire or pleasure but the sexualization occurs whether we speak of it or not. The silences surrounding a young person’s changing body and urges that come with it demonstrates cultural stigma and shame, clashing directly with sexualized images in advertisements, TV and movies promoting desirable femininity and masculinity. The misogyny displayed in most media, it is amplified for young Black and Latinx people, as their bodies are more heavily sexualized and fetishized. So it is no wonder that this staunch juxtaposition of roles for young people to fit into creates an intolerable environment for young pregnant people. When a young person becomes pregnant, schools, and the surrounding community tend jump to deficit narratives instead of face the gaping holes in sexualilty education.The pregnant body of a young person is so transgressive and so political because it forces us to to come face to face with all of our learned, and continuously upheld notions of young bodies, and what roles we have played in perpetuating them.

Integrating Sexual Minority Themes/Perspectives in a Curriculum

“Since it is not in the official academic curriculum of most schools, unlike curricular representations of ethnic or racial minorities, discussions of homosexuality fall to the wills of teachers in determining the level of representation homosexuality will have in their classrooms. This is a clear example of how the hidden curriculum bleeds into the overt curriculum, causing a lack of visibility, understanding and representation of sexual minority perspectives.”
Castro & Sujak (2012)

I hadn’t thought of the different amounts of representation different minority groups get within a given curriculum until now. Whereas heterosexual youth can find representations of their own sexuality quite easily (in literature, media, advertisements, etc.), sexual minority youth face a lack of representation and, consequently, a lack of acceptance and understanding. Continue reading Integrating Sexual Minority Themes/Perspectives in a Curriculum