I’m not a girl, not yet a woman

“A new period of life is emerging in which young people are no longer adolescents but
not yet adults” (Cohen 2010)

Cohen’s article clearly delineates the American mindset that adulthood begins at age 18, when a child, and I use that word deliberately, is expected to move out of the house and gain this sudden independence. Cohen very matter of factly points out the new trend that is forming among millennials and the generation preceding us. The tone of the article may suggest to some readers that America is spiraling out of control and is losing sight of the proper way to live (I say this solely based on the lack on opinion in the text). However, the author may also be signaling towards a positive change in the American lifestyle.

I would like to contrast this way of life with that of many other cultures. Let’s take the Chilean, Spanish, or Iranian culture, for instance, cultures in which I have lived for a long duration of time. These nations represent three distinct continents where individuals are allowed to, even expected, to live at home until they have become fully established on their own two feet. This may mean until they have married or until they have saved enough money to be financial independent. There is no pressure on the child to leave to begin a life which they are not yet ready for.

A young adult has not fully “cooked” (if I may use the expression from Farsi) until they have achieved certain milestones, and this point may be different for each individual. By staying home longer, they develop certain skills and gain life lessons which will lead to a more enjoyable life—they can dedicate more time to their studies, pursue a career they desire, marry or not marry, etc. It is safe to say that the default age of 18 set forth by the United States is a social construction promoting the capitalistic interests of the nation and a little change can benefit the coming generations.

One thought on “I’m not a girl, not yet a woman

  1. Laila,
    I truly enjoyed reading your post. I definitely agree on your point on capitalism. In America, we are expected to become millionaires or at least self-sustained by the time we finish college (if we go to college, if not the age is lowered). When I read your post, it reminded me of how much the countries you mentioned value family in their culuture. Maybe the United States is moving in that direction (hopefully), but it’s definitely at that “awkward” phase where it’s self-conscious about it changing to something it doesn’t want to be. Let’s see how the newer generations view this change!

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