Monthly Archives: November 2015

No Defining Characteristic

I struggled to choose just one important passage for my MVP this week, but I stuck with the conclusion from Diamond and Savin-Williams “The Intimate Relationsips of Sexual Minority Youth”

“Perhaps the single most defining characteristic of sexual-minority youths’ intimate relationships is that they have no single defining characteristics: the types of casual, intimate, platonic, and romantic relationships these youths pursue with same-sex and other-sex peers Continue reading No Defining Characteristic

THE SELF-CREATION OF SAFE SPACE BY LGBT.

After reading this chapter and from our classroom discussions, I am thinking about my country ‘Nepal’ Why in my country we never identified these kinds of people. May be they are few in my country, may be because of our culture, may be they are not open because of safe space or lack of diversified and complex community. Now I realize that before we don’t have space for third sex even in our Constitution, while making citizenship and passport, they have to select either male or female. But I heard that in our new constitution, just released a couple of months ago have provision for third sex. The most amazing things for me is that I spent almost a decade in teaching field, always surrounded by adolescents and adults, I didn’t even realize about LGBT. Not only me, we never discussed about these things in our teaching community. In my culture we believe in early arranged marriage, now I am thinking why there is a higher suicidal rate either male or female in newly married couples. I am not sure but now I can guess the reason is.They are in high risk,they get married because of family pressure even though they understand their biological differences. I think, they need some safe space like GLBFO to open up, interaction and exchange their feelings in my country too.

Environmental factors affect adolescents’ desire for seeking help

The Intimate Relationships of Sexual Minority Youth
by Diamond, L & Savin-Williams, R.C.
reply by Shu Shi

“…many youths have considerable difficulty discerning whether the feeling and fantasies they experience for same-sex partners (whether real or imagined) are ‘real’ sexual desires” (p. 402). – by Diamond & Savin-Williams Continue reading Environmental factors affect adolescents’ desire for seeking help

Aggressive Girls and Confident Boys

Schellenbach, C. J., Leadbeater, B. J., & Moore, K. A. (2004). Enhancing the development outcomes of adolescent parents and their children.

“…evidence of individual differences among subgroups of adolescent mothers is accumulating. Within a high-risk sample of African American mothers, Miller-Johnson et al. (1999) found that girls who demonstrated stable patterns of aggression in childhood were more likely to become pregnant in early adolescence and more likely to have multiple births before 19 years of age. A second group of girls became pregnant in late adolescence but functioned competently in other domains of behavior. A third group of girls were characterized by parent reports of depressive symptoms, although the adolescents themselves did not corroborate this. Confirming the relationship between aggression and early pregnancies, Underwood and colleagues (1996) also found that half of the aggressive girls in a sample of lower income, African American girls became pregnant compared to 25% of girls rated as nonaggressive. Moreover, these highly aggressive girls were more likely to belong to social groups that accepted and encouraged early risk-taking behaviors.”

 

I chose this passage because it put up some red flags for me. I read the words ‘aggressive’ and ‘girl’ in the context of early sexual activity and had to pause.

First, I am reminded of the idea that boys with leadership skills are called ‘leaders’ and girls with leadership girls are called ‘bossy’. Likewise, I would be very curious to know what were the criteria for identifying a girl as aggressive. Were they fair? I have a female African American student that I initially identified as loud, bossy, and aggressive. Then I reminded myself to listen to what she was saying so loudly. It was mostly ‘please’, ‘excuse me’, ‘may I’, and ‘thank you’. I realized that I would probably describe a boy with the same traits as outgoing and considerate.

Second, I am reminded of popular images of ‘aggressive’ girls and women. I can’t think of one that isn’t at least a little bit sexual. The cougar, the school girl attracted to her teacher, the high powered business woman in her very fitted suit, the intern that gains sway in the office with her new look, the list goes on. I can’t help but think that these ‘aggressive’ girls are more at risk for teen pregnancy because they are perceived as more sexual and more adult than their peers.

Wittle Away at that Safe Space

Adolescents are constantly trying to navigate the unchartered territories of social acceptance, while concurrently attempting to identify a sense of self, particularly in regard to society and the greater world around them. Many adults tend to make the detrimentally ageist (and ignorant) mistake of simply labeling adolescents as naïve, moody youths who are unequipped to truly make informative life decisions. All of this external doubt placed upon adolescence, in addition to the biological fluctuations and peripheral pressures that come with the age make the time an extremely trying one; thus it is exponentially more difficult to even begin to imagine the struggles of the more marginalized population of the self-aware gay, lesbian, bisexual, and questioning adolescent youth.
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