Leadership is still more art than science. There are rules that generally work, but how we apply them is based on the individuals involved. People are complicated. We do our best. When we can’t follow an algorithm, one of the best ways to learn is by watching others. Simon Sinek, author and popular TED Talk speaker, said, “Think back to the people that have made a difference in your professional life and why.” Think about what it was that enabled them to get the most from you. Maybe even more than you thought possible. What was it that made them good? Is that something that you could do? Would it work with your team?
Chances are that those leaders who got you to perform best knew you and cared about you. They listened to you. Therefore, they knew when to challenge you and when to support you. I never started, and rarely even played, during my first three years of high school football. My senior year, I was selected to the all-state team. My coach understood me and could get me to play beyond what I ever thought possible.
John Quincy Adams said, “If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.” I’ll add that if you can do all that you are a great leader. As you strive to be a better leader, study others. Try to apply what you learn from them, but understand that good leaders lead from who they are and adapt their style to their teams. Take what works and put it in your leadership toolbox. The more tools you have the better you’ll be able to lead your team in all circumstances.